How to Stop Harassing Emails

When someone uses your email account to harass you, it might fall into the category of stalking. Unlike spam emails that deluge your inbox with offers of super diets and riches from Nigeria, harassing emails are often from an estranged friend or acquaintance and at best are a form of bullying. If you dread opening your email for fear of the next attack of hateful or threatening emails, there are specific steps you can take to eliminate the problem before it escalates.

Step 1

Send one reply to the person who is harassing you, saying in a firm tone that this reply constitutes an order to cease and desist. Tell them that you consider their attacks to be harassing, threatening and libelous and they are not to contact you again.

Step 2

Contact the person's email provider if you receive another email after your demand to cease. Explain that you feel the person's emails are harassing, and request that his account be suspended. Cut and paste a sample of a harassing email that you received and tell the email provider how many similar emails you have received in the past week (or month). When an email account is opened, there are terms of use that are agreed to, and non-harassment is one of them. The email provider will investigate and close down the person's account when your complaint has been found to be valid.

Step 3

Print copies of the harassing emails and take them to your local police department. Explain that you feel threatened by the person and ask that your complaint be put on record.

Step 4

Consider filing a restraint order. If the person harassing you lives in the same town, county or state, you might have legal options to get them to stop.


  • Refrain form answering anything personal that the person has written in the harassing email. Any response other than an order to cease will encourage them to continue the emails.
  • If the person harassing you is a fellow student or minor, consider taking copies or the emails to your school. All grade and high schools and most colleges have cyber-stalking rules.

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