Finding your birth child after she's been adopted can help you come to terms with the adoption and help your birth child learn about her biological family and the reasons for the adoption. If your birth child wants to find you, you'll have an easier time reuniting since you'll both be actively searching. Even if your birth child isn't actively looking for you, you can find her with persistence and patience.
List the child's birth date, birthplace and other details you remember. Spend time jotting down any information you recall about the circumstances surrounding her birth; you'll need this information to track her down.
Register on the International Soundex Reunion Register and Find My Family (see Resources). These free registries reunite birth parents with their children if both parties are registered. To register, you'll need to list the birth date and birthplace, at minimum. Children older than 18 can register, and adoptive parents of younger children can register their children. If your child is online, you'll be notified within seven to 10 days; if your child is not online, your information remains with the registries until you ask to have it removed.
Call the adoption agency, if you used one, that processed the adoption. Ask whether you can update your information in the adoption file. If the agency allows it, you can write a letter to your birth child with your personal information. When your birth child reaches a certain age, she'll receive the information and can contact you if she wants to.
Call the Department of Social Services (DSS) (if the adoption was processed through DSS) in the state in which you left the child. Provide DSS with details surrounding the adoption and see if it'll release information about your birth child or her adoptive parents. You may be able to keep your information on file in case your child contacts DSS.
Check with the county court in the community in which the adoption was processed. If court records are available, request copies to learn more about your birth child.
Remain in touch with the agencies/registries you're using and update your information as you uncover more information about the adoption. The more specific the information you can provide about the adoption, the greater your chances of contacting your birth child.